Build Rapport With a Woman

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s a relation marked by harmony, affection and mutual

respect. When you’re in rapport with a woman, she’ll treat you the way

she treats a close friend whom she’s ready to confide in. With an

overwhelming urge to understand as well as to be understood, she’ll

find everything between you and her agreeable.

Potentially, you can make her do anything if there’s a strong rapport

between you and her. She’ll look at you as though she’s looking at

herself. In some instances, she’ll think she’s found her “soul mate”.

Moreover, when two people come into rapport naturally, their body

language tends to coincide. They begin to “speak the same language”.

And they seem to go through the same kind of emotion and exhibit

similar reaction to environment and any other external event.

In order to effectively build rapport with a woman, you should start to

pace her, or mirror her actions. Simply perform similar or even

identical actions as she does. For example, if she frequently gestures

with her left hand while speaking, do the same. Believe me, 99% of

the time she won’t notice it. If she does notice, you’ve probably

overdone it. Just tell her something like, “Oh I’m sorry I didn’t realize

that”… with an innocent look.

It’ll be as if you are holding a mirror up to her so what she sees,

hears, or feels matches her reality and she sees another self in you.

It’s a good idea to practice

pacing one thing at a time: posture, facial expression, mood,

gestures, speech rate, and so on. After you become adept at
pacing, you will be able do it without thinking about it.

Building rapport in real life

whenever you can. For example, you can practice sitting in the

same position as a woman you’re watching. Modify accordingly of

course—you don’t want to sit with legs crossed all the time.

When you practice rapport

building and pace other people’s body language, tonality… pay

attention to how the other party reacts and how your own feelings

change as you adopt different or even conflicting body languages.

This will sharpen your sensory acuity in identifying how women

are feeling during contacts.

building rapport