Joseph Plazo asked:


Stop a moment and ask yourself this: has a new employee ever passed you up for a promotion? How can it be, you query yourself, that the new upstart was promoted when everyone else in the company tells you that you deserved the promotion? The new employee did not have your track record for success, did not have the necessary credentials, and wasn’t even close to matching your company loyalty!
Frustrated with the lack of answers, you attempt to obtain answers from management, which only ignites more frustration because they cannot explain it logically. Perturbed and discouraged you resort back to your old patterns of long work hours and hard work, in the hopes that one day all your hard work will be noticed, while you watch the new employee move up the company ladder with tremendous ease.

What do these “fast-tracking” employees have that lands them promotions, allows them to negotiate obstacles with ease, and charms the boss into giving them whatever they want? Do these employees hypnotize their supervisors by waving a watch in front of his or her eyes? Well, in a way…yes! A few employees have learned subtle communication methods that cause their supervisors to be instantly suggestible and receptive to covet influence.

The subtle communication skills that fast-tracking employees use don’t influence their supervisors on the conscious level as much as on the unconscious level. Need proof that fast-tracking employees can influence their supervisors on the unconscious level? Here’s how to do it. When the opportunity arises, simply ask a supervisor who has just given an employee a promotion, a raise, or special role within the company his rationale for the decision. If the supervisor can give you three good reasons for his decision, he probably has not been influenced at the unconscious level; this boss did his homework truly evaluated the various candidates for the job. However, if he cannot give you bona fide reasons for his decision or if he gets mad at you for questioning his judgment-it is likely that he had been unconsciously influenced by the charisma of the lucky person he had just promoted.

Now ask yourself: do you already want to learn what these fast-tracking employees know about unconscious communication? Are you desirous to learn the secrets of charm and charisma that can get you that job or promotion? Then check into Neuro Linguistic Programming (NLP), developed by John Grinder and Richard Bandler. They combined different theories of language and neurology to form methods that have the potential to influence people at the unconscious level. I have summarized a few of the many amazing techniques that NLP has developed.

1.) Weaving Rapport by Mirroring: Building rapport with your supervisor is more than talking about the same movie you saw over the weekend. Rapport building includes matching all your supervisor’s body posture, facial expressions, energy levels, humor, styles, words, and gestures. It can also include matching breathing, inflection voice tone, and language patterns. At the advanced levels it also includes matching values, beliefs, and objectives. Matching is not mimicking your supervisor’s behavior, matching involves adopting similar patterns into your own style so that they appear natural versus mimicked.

One of NLP’s theories is that the mind and body are all part of the same system; therefore, if you match your supervisor’s verbal and non-verbal communication patterns, you are matching his or her thinking patterns-the highest form of rapport that you can establish.

Rapport is extremely important in business because business decisions are rarely reached on the value of technical merit alone; more often than not, favorable business decisions are developed between those who have developed a great deal of rapport.

Remember this overriding rule: we like those who are like ourselves. We trust those who exude similarity with ourselves. The cliche “opposite’s attract” has never been farther than the truth. Let me prove it to you. Think of your best friend. Call to mind his many qualities. Examine them well. Give yourself a minute to do this.

Done? What have you observed? Of course!!! Your best friend shares many of your habits, mannerisms, dreams, ambitions…! Now you have the secret of getting along with anybody (not just your best friend!) Build rapport, now, by creating an apparent similarity between you and the other person. It’s the secret called Mirroring.

2.) Advanced Rapport: Want to take that charisma the extra mile? Let’s talk about the arcane art of ANCHORING.

Anchoring involves placing a positive feeling into your supervisor’s memory about you. By definition anchoring is the association of something seen, touched, heard, smelled, or tasted, with a specific memory or sensation. When you hear an old love song you and your 1st girlfriend shared, strong emotions come rushing back… even though a decade may have elapsed. This is anchoring: you anchored that specific melody with fond old memories of love.

Now let’s bring this to the business environment.

We all have people in our workplaces that cause us to cringe each time we see them or come into contact with them in meetings. People who cause us to wince have created a negative emotion anchored in our unconscious memory. As a fast-tracking employee, you cannot afford to create a negative emotion in your supervisor’s memory. It is your goal to anchor positive emotions of yourself in their minds. In other words, you want your supervisor to associate you with favorable emotions.

In order to anchor, you simply use two very special gestures when you converse with people: gesturing away from yourself, and gesturing towards yourself. Gesture away from yourself whenever you mention something negative. Examples would be a death in the family, a salary cut, losing a job. On the other hand, whenever you discuss something positive, gesture towards your chest. For instance, you may be discussing a recent golfing victory of your supervisor, and as you praise his achievement, you subtly gesture towards your chest. In both cases of gesturing away and towards yourself, ensure that every movement is natural and spontaneous.

Here’s how it works. On the subconscious level, the mind hears something positive and sees the subtle self-pointing gestures. It then creates an association of positive emotion with you. Over time the positive emotions associated with you will be anchored into your supervisor’s unconscious memory. Your supervisor will think you’re such a swell guy to be with and won’t even know why. Try this with strangers and observe how quickly you draw them in!

The aforementioned methods should help you to hypnotize your supervisor without using a watch on a string. If you would like to know more about NLP and unconscious communication, I recommend joining our forum (it’s free) and reading up on all the articles!



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Helen Foster asked:


If you are learning conversational hypnosis or communication techniques, you may come cross the idea of building rapport to establish trust. It is a core skill to make a person like you without trying hard to do so. With skills in rapport, leadership will follow naturally. There are 3 important areas of rapport building you need to know: body gestures, non-verbal clues and mimicking. After reading the article, you should be clear about the basics of rapport building skills.

When you meet a new person, you ought to present a friendly open gesture. This includes an open-arm gesture, a friendly smile and tonality. Why? Because these are the traits people are subconsciously looking for. If you always look tired or withdrawn from groups, people are not willing to contact you. In fact, during communication, body language is responsible for more than 50% of communication effectiveness. If you maintain a open body manner, people will find it easy to communicate with you. Also remember to always maintain eye contact constantly, as it affects your perceived credibility in others’ views.
When you are communicating with a person, try to look for non-verbal pattern from him or her. Be an observant listener, and respond appropriately to the talker. Making him or her feel listened is particularly important in seduction or sales situation. Look for traits in the body movement and tonality. Does the speak look annoyed or bored? Is the tone dry or vivid? If you can understand the body clues, you can deduce the needs of your partner and adjust your conversation direction.

Mimicking refers to mirroring and matching of your partner’s body pattern. It includes pace of speaking, the words used and body movement. Try to mimic the speaking style and body gestures, and your partner will feel subconsciously comfortable with your presence. The reason is simple, because you are perceived to be inside their group and you appear to understand them. Having a common ground catalysts the communication process and helps you achieve your conversational goal.

Learn to stand upright and position yourself in a openly gesture. Look for non-verbal clues to identify a common ground. And mimic your partner’s body language. With these in your mind, you will find it much easier to meet people or even complete strangers. With improvement in rapport, leadership and charisma will gradually build up. If you wish to learn more about influence and art of rapport, website I can recommend is http://www.intuitivehypnosis.com/. The conversational hypnosis report there can make a difference.



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Joel Seah asked:


Body language is a reflection of a person’s non-verbal communication. It includes movements or expressions that are so subtle the person may not even be aware of it themselves. Albert Mehrabian conducted a research in 1971 and concluded that there are three elements in any face to face communication

1.    Words (7%)

2.    Tone of voice (38%)

3.    Body language (55%)

The actual words spoken only account for 7% of the communication, while body language makes up 55%. Just as how you can’t really afford the luxury of time to allow others to have a better impression of you, the amount of time you have to build rapport at the start is relatively short too. Therefore, understanding body language gives you a huge edge in communication ability, and allows you to build rapport with people within a much shorter time.

One of the best ways to assess if someone you are meeting for the first time is positive or negative towards you is to observe their body actions, and notice if they will “mirror” you. Mirroring means to move or gesture in the same way.

Mirroring is to tell others that you are similar, and similarities bring people together.  If you have been to a sports event where everyone in the same section is cheering for the same team, you would feel the strong vibes in the atmosphere.

Similarly, if you were relocated to work or live in a foreign land where the language is different, and you meet someone who speaks your language, there is a high chance rapport would be established very quickly.

Mirroring is also a way of showing acceptance and building rapport, something that we do subconsciously all the time. Just be more observant towards people the next time you are out, and you will notice mirroring taking place everywhere. It could be between couples, groups of friends, families, and even strangers.

So if you want to build up rapport with someone quickly, do try this proven method of subtle mirroring of their gestures, body actions, and even words. You might just surprise yourself with the results that come from it. A note to remember though, the key here is to be subtle with your mirroring. The last thing you want is to break rapport by irritating others with your excessive copying. Therefore, when you are mirroring the other person, create a lag time before subtly following any change in their posture.

 



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People Building asked:


Have you ever wanted to instantly get onto someone else’s wave length? How is it that you can spend time with a person and despite knowing that you have similarities or common ground, you just don’t click with them? And yet someone else you’ve never met before in your life, could be as easy to chat to as your long lost best friend. Of course, there are also those who could talk to you for hours, when all you want to do is get away- but they seem to fail to pick up on the signal!

The answer to these mysteries is rapport. Studies of how people communicate in congruence with each other tell us that 55% of our communication is done so via our physiology (what we are doing with our bodies) 38% is via our voice tonality and only 7% of our communication is done so through our words.

Whist this is generally well known, what people fail to understand is how to utilise that information. Many have studied body language and draw certain conclusions from that. For example, I’ve heard it said that those who fold their arms are being defensive- but what if they just have belly ache? Due to the fact that we are all different and each an individual, should we not instead be calibrating on the physiology that is displayed to us? For example, if someone has their arms folded when they are in a particular state (e.g. confusion) when they next fold their arms we can conclude that they are returning to that same state.

So how can we properly utilise this enormous 55% of physiology in a way that will effectively influence our rapport with others. In NLP we use a skill called Matching and Mirroring. Basically this means that you make subtle changes in what you are doing with your body so that you gently and gracefully take on the same posture, gestures and expressions as the person you are communication with. This is a very easy and a very descrete skill to use- one of the most powerful ways of getting into rapport with another using your physiology is to pace your breathing with the person you are communicating with. If you can get the physiology part right then you’re already 55% of the way to being completely on that person’s wavelength.

Now what if you are on the phone and are unable to get good rapport using physiology? Well tonality is the next most successful way. So is the person speaking high, low, fast, slow, loudly, or softly? In order to match and mirror using your voice tonality you must use your voice in a similar way to the person you are communicating- but never try to match someone’s accent you’ll never be able to do it! We know that words are responsible for 7% of the communication so you can also begin to match the content that is being discussed, or use the same particular words or phrases as the person you are talking to.

Now what about when you’ve got rapport and want to break it? Just do the opposite of what it says above!



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Sudath Wijesooriya asked:


A true Relationship is a bond between two separate like minded individuals. Relationships between two are formed based on psychological and physical attractions and factors. The more the mind is involved the more the relationship becomes strong.

The main reason for a breakdown in a relationship is one party trying to exert excessive control over the other. If you are in a genuine relationship, the first thing you should prepare to accept is the uniqueness of the other individual. All the hell breaks loose when we try to get the other half do act like some one else than being his or her own self. If true love is involved the first thing you should do is to be willing to accept the other half as he or she is.

You and your ex were living and brought up in two entirely different life situations, families. No two people will have the same qualities unless its a very rare situation. We all are diverse being in this magnificent universe.

So in such a world, how can we expect the other half to be like us? This expectation is the major stumbling block in a relationship.

There are enough and more methods to get your ex back using the Law Of Attraction. I will give the most effective 5 tips on how to Use the Law of Attraction to get your Ex back

1. Let go of your attachment to wanting him or her so much. This is a paradoxical situation, as most of you would think that letting go of always worrying and being attached to wanting him or her will let go him or her for ever. But this is not the case, if you are attached to some thing so much, that you cannot live without it, implies that you are lacking that particular thing in your life. Your vibration will project this lacking emotional state to the universe and the Law of Attraction will give you more of what you are focused on, meaning you distance your ex further and further. Simply meaning you don’t get him or her.

2. Make up your mind to not worry and fret over the break up and get clear. Let go of all the negative emotions and keep company. Do not be alone. Try your best to be occupied in something. This will let go of negative emotions and you would start to see things in a clear way. You would know what’s to be done next. This may not be easy in the first instance, nevertheless try your best.

3. Visualize you making amends with your ex again. The mental pictures don’t need to be very clear, just do your best. But the main thing is to FEEL all the happy, exciting, loving emotions when you visualize. For example, see mental pictures that you are with your ex again. Hear how your ex is speaking loving words to you. Feel how it is making you happy and so on. Law of Attraction is responding to our feelings and not to the pictures that we see in our minds. The main thing is to feel happy that you are back with your ex.

4. Try to do some meditation for about 10-15 minutes a day just to quieting your mind. The mental chatter is the major culprit. You loose your intuition and inner guidance once this chatter is on. If you can reduce the volume of this chatter, you would be able to see things more clearly. You will get inner guidance as to what you should do next and that is the perfect thing to do next. Because your inner self knows every thing about you and it acts for your greater good. Quietening your mind is easy said than done, because any one who has tried meditation will know how difficult it is. Meditation is a great way to activate the Law Of Attraction in your life.

5. Find a Brainwave Entrainment technique and listen to it for at least 30 minutes a day. This will help you achieve most of the above mentioned benefits. It helps quieting your mind within 10-15 minutes of listening. This brings your brainwaves to “Alpha” in no sooner time. And “Alpha” is a very soothing brain wave level to be. Continued listening will drop all bad habits and make you a magnet to activating the Law Of Attraction in your life. This in turn would help you to get your ex back in no sooner time.



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Michael Lee asked:


If finding out how to attract beautiful women isn’t easy, just imagine the challenge when you see her long line of suitors. Having competition would be tougher for you. However, don’t get discouraged easily if you’re clueless on how to attract beautiful women.

Research indicates that females are more attracted to the status or ambition of men rather than their looks. So this is good news for any man, regardless of his physical attractiveness.

Here are some useful ways on how to attract beautiful women and capture their interest:

1.  Be confident but not obnoxious.

There is a very thin line separating confidence from cockiness. Make the woman feel that her beauty does not intimidate you. Instead, assert your confidence by being more deliberate in your moves.

A passive male is a major turn off. Just act normal. Be your respectful self and refrain from becoming too stiff.

2. Refrain from becoming a “yes” man.

Women like challenges. Keep in mind that a typical beautiful female is used to getting what she wants. There is a long line of males trying to get her attention by simply giving in to her requests and orders.

If you want to learn how to attract beautiful women, you have to stand out from the crowd by doing the opposite. Be assertive with your decisions and stand up for what you believe in. Don’t be a puppet, but exude a dignified sense of purpose and self-esteem.

3. Raise your status.

Ever wondered why celebrities, athletes, or rock stars get all the girls? This is because women are attracted to dominant males with high-perceived status.

However, this does not mean that your case is hopeless if you’re not a celebrity. Excel in whatever you do to get the attention of everyone. Be on top of your game.

If you have a sense of humor, use it to increase your likeability. When more people mill around you, you will arouse the curiosity of beautiful women and they will be drawn towards you.

4. Use flirting body language.

You need to be careful with this tip, as you might appear too aggressive and drive her away. You just need to be playful and relaxed around her.

Flirting body language signs include smiling, making eye contact, leaning forward, and maintaining an open posture.

Play with these just basic strategies and see how effective they are. Once you’ve mastered these techniques on how to attract beautiful women, you can easily attract any female you desire. Hey, you may even get that dream date with a beauty queen. Good luck!



First Practical, Step-by-Step Blueprint for Talking and Flirting with Women No Matter If You?re Short, Old, Ugly, Flat-Broke, or Get Less Action Than a 40-Year Old Virgin!

Robert Edmonds asked:


How to get a woman to like you, even without money

One thing you should realize is that for men, getting laid is a job and a hard one. For girls, getting laid is a choice. Women’s choice is two fold, they decide if they want to get laid first and even more selectively, they determine who to do it with. So, until you pass those two criteria for a woman, you don’t stand a chance of getting any soon.

One of the most important lesson is to know as a man, how to do your chore of getting laid. You will be more successful in getting dates with your desired woman when you have mastered the karma of dating. You will need to learn the woman psych, read the signs and know how to counter negative ones, pretend if you have to, lie through your teeth in most times and simply look like an angel’s reincarnate. Things we do for love!!!

Never make excuses for your needs as a man

One of the biggest mistake men make is that they approach a woman alright, but are so scared to broach the subject of sex . Most women just translate this to mean the guy is just a good friend and not interested in her sexually. When this happens, as you may know, the game is usually over.

When you Know it will Never Happen

A woman needs to know from the word go that your interest in her is not for her to get a bosom buddy, escort to games, or body guard. You will need to atleast give the signs you are interested in her intimately. It does not matter when you will both decide to get to bed but as long as it’s known that you will have to do that at some point, and then things are clearer.

Gain her trust and after time she is down with it

Another important thing for a man is to never make excuses for your manly needs. You need not come out like a moron demanding sex on your first date. As time progresses she will develop trust in you, falling in love, things start working. But truth be told, you will need to learn patience.

Any decent girl will have to play you out long enough to find out if you are genuine or a fake. If you outlive this time test, usually things engage in autopilot and the woman will have generated enough momentum on her own to brace the next level of events in your relationship.

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Jaz Lai asked:


When I first started out in my network, I have gone through a hell of a ride. The struggles that I had to put up with was unimaginable – I had to deal with managing people, motivating them, doing many ‘favors’ for my downline as well as enduring the dreaded attrition rates even after my downlines promised me that they will ‘follow me off a cliff’.

After going through so many trials and errors, I am glad to say that I’ve mastered the art on how to build a downline and how I can minimize my mistakes that one can make on the way towards network marketing success.

One reason why people fail to build a proper downline is not because they fail to recruit or sponsor people but rather because they just don’t know how to keep them. It’s like dating and marrying someone quickly and getting a divorce in 6 months time (or earlier just like celebrity marriages). We don’t want that kind of problem in our network marketing now, don’t we? We want to build a solid, long term business and the most important thing we need to do is focus on building strong relationships.

Your downline are human beings – each individual is different from one another. Don’t expect every one of them to be a super talker. Some are shyer and prefer to do things quietly in the background. Others are more proactive and they don’t want their upline bossing them around – they prefer to do things their own way while others need a little push or constant motivation in order to get things going.

The most important thing you need to do is to understand what personality quadrant your downline comes from. They could be a:

- Promoter who loves to talk and talk and show others how good they are

- An analyzer who might prefer to do online recruiting on the Internet

- A controller who does things their own way and orders his or her downline to do things the way they want.

- A supporter who befriends others and wins over others through friendship and building rapport.

Once you understand what people are like, you will be one step towards building a good downline – by understanding how people work. Don’t expect a promoter to constantly sit in front of a computer without anyone to talk to. Don’t expect an analyzer to be the center of attention in a gathering because they could be shy. Don’t boss a controller around – you are hindering him or her from doing their job. And don’t expect supporters to be confrontational people and deal with difficult people.

Building a downline is an art more than a science and it cannot work if you apply a cookie cutter method.



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James London-DeVasher asked:


If you have been laid-off from your job, you may be wondering what you are going to do next.  Or maybe you are just looking for something you can do until you get called back or find another position.

While there are plenty of part time jobs available — from fast-food restaurants to car washes — it would be nice to find a part time job that… Pays You a full-time income (or better.) Allows you to work almost immediately. Lets you grow as you learn. …And is possible to continue AFTER you go back to you job (or maybe you won’t go back at all.) 

Does Such a job exist?

Yes! and You See It All the Time

Did you know that Americans consume over almost two billion hot dogs sold every year from hot dog carts? 

It’s true.

This is a fantastic business opportunity — for Everyone.  But especially for those who have unexpected time on their hands.

The Hot Dog Cart Business has many advantages over your last job such as: 

100% Recession Proof Fast to Start (About 2 Weeks) with No Interviewing. Dirt Cheap Start Up Costs No Special Education or Experience is Needed Very, Very High Paying

And Best of All…

You are Your Own Boss — So You CAN NOT Be Laid-Off Again! You Don’t Have To Quit Your Current Job

Maybe you haven’t been laid-off — yet — but are looking for something to supplement your income and provide a bit of security for your family. 

This could be the answer for you, too.

A lot of hot dog vendors only work weekends, some only work events, start part time and keep their own jobs. It’s really up to you.

Are you interested in learning more?



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