Michael Lee asked:


Can’t approach a girl without breaking into sweat? Do you find yourself stammering even before the second word of your practiced pick-up line? If you’re nodding your head at these questions, then you might be the sort of guy who needs to learn a few flirting tips for shy guys.

You read that right. Confident rock stars and jocks aren’t the only ones who are allowed to flirt with girls, you know. With these flirting tips for shy guys, you now possess the ability to attract attention and attract the girl of your dreams.


Flirting Tips for Shy Guys # 1: Try It With A Smile.


Being a shy guy and all, it might be wise to refrain from verbal communication at first. Don’t underestimate the power of non-verbal communication.

A smile can take you a long way. It makes you look approachable and pleasing to the eye. This is very effective because you get an immediate reaction. Women also tend to smile back when a man smiles at them. Make sure your teeth are clean first though.

Flirting Tips for Shy Guys # 2: Be The Silent and Mysterious Type.

Another great technique that works in the shy guy’s favor is the silent and mysterious strategy. Sure, you don’t talk a lot and you might not even bare you teeth that often either, but there is an air about you that draws women in.

It’s great for the shy guy because you’re not pressured to give long answers or be witty all the time. In this case, your eyes are your tools. Practice different emotions with your eyes at home so you’ll know how to work them best in an actual flirting situation.



Flirting Tips for Shy Guys # 3: Be Confident or Fake It.


Sometimes, you have to be the very image of confidence, even if you don’t really feel it. Confidence is the number one factor that attracts women.  Practice confidence in your voice, your walk, and even the way you order a drink. Women are very observant and like to see how a guy carries himself.

Now that you know these flirting tips for shy guys, it’s up to you to make them work for your specific situation. Understand the mechanics behind each tactic and you’ll soon get better results.



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A Roadmap for the Recently Laid Off

Scott Gordon asked:


You’ve been with your company for two or three years—gone to the picnics, schmoozed your manager, won employee of the month, been on the holiday party planning committee and see yourself retiring with your company.

It’s a regular Thursday afternoon—and you get laid off. You never saw it coming.

Even though you’ve been a loyal kool-aid drinking employee for the last two or three years, when you’re laid off they don’t offer you severance, your benefits end in two weeks and you’ve already taken your two weeks of vacation for the year. It’s you vs. the world in a battle royale/cage/lumber jack strap match, and your biggest weapons are what personal items you took from your desk when you left. A photo of your wife/husband, a coffee mug and a half eaten tin of Altoids aren’t going to get you very far. Sitting in your car, you curse yourself for not being prepared for the possibilty of being laid off—something you thought would never happen. Get ready for an onslaught of feelings.

As with any other grieving process, when you are laid off prepare for:

denial and isolation anger bargaining depression acceptance

What Should You Do Now that You Have Been Laid Off?

The first thing anyone is going to ask for when you are laid off for is your resume, and it should be the easiest/quickest thing to produce. Keep your resume updated and kept in your Google Mail/Hotmail, etc. for days just like this. Every time you get a pat on the back, learn a new skill or receive a new title, update your resume. It’s hard to remember what you did two months ago, much less two years ago. Keep your resume updated! If you’ve worked with a recruiter firm before, call them and let them know that a resume is on the way. Include salary information and any other pertinent information they may need to start the job search process. Keep an open line of communication with the recruiter, and don’t spread yourself too thin among different recruiters. Find one or two firms that you really trust and stick with them. It’s OK to “fire” a firm if you feel like they aren’t working for you or are jerking you around. Call all of your friends and let them know you were laid off and are looking for a job. Personal networks provide a bevy of job leads. It’s humbling to tell your buddies that you just lost your job, but you have to make this call. Utilize online resources like Monster, Dice, Careerbuilder, HotJobs, etc. Hit your local User Groups/Chamber Meetings, etc. and hit ‘em hard. Network, network, network. If you don’t have a blog, start one. Ditto w/Twitter, Facebook, LinkedIn. Call the unemployment office or get online and register. If you think you don’t qualify, register anyway. The worst thing they can say is, “You don’t qualify.” Ask your HR representative if you have doubts. I’ve seen people wait two or three months to sign up because they were too proud to call. Get your insurance info together. Make sure you are covered and do all you can to avoid gaps in coverage. If you’ve been laid off in the middle of the month and your insurance will cover you until the end of the month, go to the doctor and dentist and get your prescriptions written for the next three months. Most doctors will oblige. Don’t take your layoff personally. It’s business. Enjoy your time off. Spend it with your family. Make breakfast for the kids, finish a home project you’ve been putting off, catch up on Oprah and relax. It’s a short-term problem, and if you are good at what you do, you’ll be back to work quickly.

Insert my personal philosophy here: Don’t let your job define who you are. It’s OK…really! You’ll recover.

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How a Former Stuttering, Shy Nerd Cracked the Code to Flirting with Women and Creating Sexual Attraction…

Michael Lee asked:


When people are attracted to you, they give out signs of physical attraction. These signals are often done unconsciously so don’t expect them to be obvious or direct. However, there are ways to figure out these signals and interpret them for what they really are.

If you want to learn more about the signs of physical attraction, then you’ve come to the right place. Below are some of the most common ones you wouldn’t want to miss out on.  


Signs of Physical Attraction # 1: Body Facing You


When the person’s body is facing towards you, that means he’s attracted to you. It could be a person’s torso, legs or even the whole body. This is all done on a subconscious level so you’ll know right away whether a person is genuinely interested in you or not.

Signs of Physical Attraction # 2: Making Body Contact

When the person you’re talking to makes physical contact, they’re trying to get your attention and subtly communicating their interest.

They might lean their head on your shoulder should the opportunity present itself. Or the person could touch your arm lightly or in an affectionate way. No matter how brief the contact is, you can bet that the person is attracted to you.

Signs of Physical Attraction # 3: Longing Glances

If someone glances at you more than once or longer than necessary, you’ll be pleased to know that this person likes or fancies you. You can either smile back or try catching that person in the act. If that person turns red or suddenly stammers, you know you have successfully interpreted their actions.

These signs of physical attraction are easy to spot. The next time you meet or go out with someone, notice if they are exhibiting these non-verbal communication signals. If they are, then it’s your call if you want to reciprocate or simply get flattered for being an attractive person.



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I’m Laid-off, Now What Do I Do?

S. O. Lewis, Esq. asked:


OK, you’ve been laid off.  Whether it is your first time ever being terminated, laid-off or fired, or not, it is generally not a good feeling.   Understood.  How you handle your new temporary situation, both mentally and actively, will be the single largest factor effecting whether you come out on top.  It is not untrue that if mentally embraced, the job termination can be the single best thing that has ever happened to your career and future.  (If you have decided you are not going to seek re-entry to the land-of-the-employee, but really think it’s time for a change for the better, consider following the lead of those who have successfully done so, the tried and true, and learning what the top business moguls consider to be the best types of businesses to build.)

 

Post-Lay-Off Unemployment Benefits

Some obvious points to keep in mind:  First and foremost, always* file for unemployment insurance with your state agency, even if you were seemingly fired for cause (meaning, “alleged” misconduct) –  unless you are fully confident that you did steal that company computer that they accused you of, then don’t bother, and leave well-enough alone.  Many people are unaware of the fact that some types of alleged misconduct, although valid reasons for termination (your employer, generally, does not even need to provide a reason for letting you go), do not rise to the legal definition of “misconduct” needed to be disqualified from Unemployement Benefits in many states.  (For instance, too many sick days oftentimes does not rise to the level of misconduct needed for one to be disqualified from Unemployment benefits.  Who knew?  Well, I did, but most others did not.)  Likewise, poor performance, if not purposeful, is likewise not a valid disqualifying reason.  Stealing, violence on the job, or overt and unreasonable insubordination, however, may be valid disqualifying reasons. Virtually every state puts their unemployment information online, and most if not all allow you to initiate the process online.  [*If you lost your job due to an inability to perform because you have a disability or medical impairment that actually prevents you from being able to perform any job on a full time regular basis, then Unemployment benefits might not be the best avenue.  You may be eligible for Social Security Disability benefits. In addition, please note that collecting Unemployment Insurance benefits is not a bar to starting a business, if that is your choice, so long as you continue to meet your obligations required to be eligible for your benefits (i.e. job search, willing and able to work, etc.) - this is particularly helpful in light of the fact that any business start up with merit will take some building time, and being able to receive your benefits will help you survive while you build your business.  Contact this author if you need more information on whether this applies to you.]

 

Severance Pay

Secondly, don’t expect an automatic severance package.  There is a misguided notion that we as employees are entitled to one if laid-off – not true.  In fact, by and large people don’t get them at all.  (Again, unless you have a written employment contract requiring your employer to provide a severance package, it is not required to do so.)  In addition, if you believe you have any legal claims against your employer (not the norm), be aware that generally, acceptance of any proffered severance package typically includes a release or waiver of any and all claims.   That being said, however, even if a severance package is not offered, you can certainly request one!  At times it is true that the squeaky wheel gets the oil.  And if a package was offered, you can certainly negotiate for more or differing terms.

 

Medical Benefits

If you had health benefits via your employment, recognize that they may very well terminate on your last day on the job.  COBRA is generally available, but the cost is a heavy burden to you as it can often be as high as 102% of the entire premium, much of which was previously paid for by your employer but will no longer be.  However, if you or anyone in your family previously covered under your employment provided medical benefits has medical issues, without COBRA, you may find it impossible to get coverage for them.  Not to mention, as we age, it is amazing how medical issues seem to readily crop up, and without medical insurance, financial ruin can very easily be the result.  Additionally, COBRA is only available, generally, for 18  months (exceptions apply), so make sure to use this time to research your private options while searching for that next job or starting out on that business opportunity you kept procrastinating about starting before.  More about this later.

 

Cardinal Rule:  Stay in Control

Although the mental shock that comes to some people after lay-off can take days to slough off, it is very important to avoid some bad habits that can crop up and take hold.  I’m talking about not treating this new situation as if it were a vacation or a period of grief – don’t sleep in until noon, don’t party like a rock star 4+ nights/week, etc.  Not only will your funds likely be tight, you really don’t know when you will next have a job or when that new business you think you may start will start seeing black.  To protect your best interests, make sure to keep your head on straight, and to do that, you need to eat right, get ample sleep (8-9 hours preferably), and get fresh air.  Lack of sleep, too many late nights and generally not taking care of yourself will inevitable wear on your psyche, which has already gone through a mental hit with the lay-off. 

 

It can also do wonders for your motivation and future success to avoid naysayers – those with negative opinions on whatever your planning may entail, tend to be amongst the most unsuccessful (personally and professionally) and unhappy – yet it is ironic how they will swiftly slice through your plans, if they are not tightly wrapped in a traditional box that they are familiar with.  Also ironically, it is the highly successful among us that will urge us to take reasonable risks, because it is only with a bit of risk that we can actually make the positive change to our financial futures that we seek and dream of.

 

Now is the time to plan out “the rest of your life”, so to speak (and such plans are always subject to adjustment, so never fear!).  If you are looking to be an employee again, then it is imperative that you start your job search immediately, like, the next day.  The economy being what it is, if you want a better job than that which you just left, you are going to have to hustle.  Get your resume updated and make sure it is professional looking and sounding.  (If you have decided that you no longer want to be an employee working for someone else, and I hope you have the foresight to at least consider this option – then, now is the time to make the move.)    And whether being an employee or a successful business-owner is your goal, you absolutely want to network.  The more people you know, the better your chances of success, either way.

 

Now is the perfect time to think outside of the box – it is actually a great opportunity to make some changes that you didn’t have the heart or strength to do while working your 40+ for the man. For those who still want to work for someone else, consider changing up what kinds of jobs you apply for  — if you seem to be otherwise qualified for a job in a different industry, and it sounds interesting, then apply for it!   If you historically worked for small business, consider working for large, and vice versa. ( And for those that always (or just recently) decided that they want to be their own boss, now is, seriously, the time, for more than 1 reason, to consider starting a business, particularly a ‘recession-proof’ business.)   Searching for an employment job outside your comfort zone or starting a business involving some new activities you are not used to will likely surprise you as to the benefits, both mentally and financially.  For job seekers, avoid taking the wrong job out of desperation unless it is a “holdover” job.  

 

If money is tight, as it invariably is for most of us when we are in your situation, consider getting a job to hold you over until the right situation comes along – this is not your dream job, so don’t expect it to be.   This is particularly helpful for those choosing to finally start and own their own business.  However, for job-seekers, it can prevent you from depleting all of your savings while looking for that dream job.  (Incidentally, being a job seeker/worker and starting your own business are not mutually exclusive possibilities - you simply must find the business that can be successfully built on a PT basis (we found just such a business, see below)  or a job that can support you sufficiently PT, while building your business full time or be willing to do two full time activities, work for the man and build that business.  Because every business takes time to be built, unless you have a big nest egg, “incoming income” is needed to live while the business is ‘building.’  (I don’t know of any highly successful people who did not burn the candle working that extra job in order to survive the ‘building’ phase of their business – except those that started with a nice financial cushion from the getgo, or a working spouse whose income sufficed, which is not the norm.)  Remember not to be upset if your ‘holdover’ job is not your dream job – that is not what you got it for!  You use it temporarily, 6 months to 2 years, tops, to help you get that business up and running!  It is a means to an end, that is it!

 

As a self-employed person, and given the current lack of employer loyalty, decent pay, available budgets, pension provisions, medical benefits and other impediments to worthy employment, I can not more strongly urge each and every person to consider starting their own business.   If you are laid-off, you are in the absolute perfect place to start. If this seems out of your realm of possibilities, banish that thought from your mind, as it is only holding you back from true success.  You just have to find the right business for you. 

For instance, as noted above, there is a unique American, but global, corporation that it is in the business of making successful business owners out of regular folks like you and me, and ensuring that ultimately the residual income from their business organizations will allow them to largely retire and enjoy life within 2-4 years (some less), if they put in at least part time consistent efforts, show a willingness to follow directions and being trained, and persevering.  If you want this corporation to establish a new business for you, for a nominal fee as far as business start ups are concerned, they will do so.   And, the minimal cost for starting this business partnership is affordable for everyone, if this is something they want.  I believe you will never find a more reasonably priced start up opportunity that provides an actual, legitimate business that you can begin to build, day 1, without further cost.  It includes  everything, including setting up your business and providing you with a team of full support, both on the front lines and back-office, complete customer support for your customers and complete representative support for you and your team.  You will be trained, at no additional expense, in all the steps you need to do with full support at every step – and if you are willing to be so trained and to follow the proven steps, you will have no choice but to reep the various types of compensation available, relatively immediately and residually.  You will be looking back and thanking your lucky stars that you got laid-off from your employer and got out of your own way — and took that first step.  (For more information on this business opportunity, call 570-234-0171)



How To Create Instant Attraction With Any Woman

Does anyone know any flirting tips that work?

Josey asked:


im a thirteen year old girl & i really like one of my best guy friends. If anyone could give me some really good flirting tips i would appreciate it.
we already hug and he puts his arm around me .

3 Secrets That Women Will Never Reveal To You

C. Hand asked:


By Dr. Richard Bayer

It’s no big secret: The economy stinks, the stock market is struggling, and businesses everywhere are taking drastic cost-cutting measures just to keep their doors open. And if you are one of the “costs” that have recently been cut—or if you just see the handwriting on the wall—you’re feeling America’s financial crisis in a very painful and personal way. It’s tempting to crawl under the covers and hide out until the crisis is over, but you simply don’t have that luxury. You’d better get busy preparing and executing your own layoff recovery plan.

            No one enjoys looking for a job, even in the best of times—which these clearly aren’t. It’s a process fraught with stress, rejection, and a lot of tedious leg work. But with a smart strategy for handling your finances, managing your time, and executing your search, you can turn what could be a full-on disaster into merely a bump in the road.       Approach the time immediately after you’ve been laid off with the same sense of purpose you felt with your job. Resist the urge to think of unemployment as the end of the world, no matter how upsetting it may be. Think of it, instead, as an opportunity to improve yourself and to make a fresh start. You can end up better off than you were before you got the ax.

The fundamental rules for surviving your job loss are simpler than you think. Read on for some tips to help you survive—and thrive—after the proverbial pink slip has been laid on your desk:

Negotiate the best possible severance package. (Hint: Don’t automatically go for the cash!) There are two keys to getting the best possible severance package. First, whether it’s the cash settlement or career coaching benefits, negotiate each item individually. This will give you more leverage. Second, decide what you want out of a severance package, without regard for the company’s policy. Many employees simply don’t know what they can ask for in their severance talks, but it pays to research this issue and give it some careful thought.

When you approach the severance issue, think of what will truly benefit you in the long term. Health insurance, for example, costs the company less than it would cost you. You can also ask for one year of career coaching and the right to select the coaching service. People often underestimate how much time it will take them to find a new job, so they accept cash for the entire settlement. The reality is the time in between jobs can be far less worrisome when your health insurance is covered and you have career coaching to help you stay positive and find a great new job. Cash may ease the pain in the short term, but it’s these other benefits that will set you up the best if you are searching for a job for a long period of time.

Don’t take it personally. Lay offs are usually the result of budget cuts and lack of business—and not a direct result of poor performance. Remember that lots of good people get downsized, and in today’s economy it’s happening more than ever. If you are the company’s most recent hire, or if your department is being cut out all together, your position can be in jeopardy regardless of how well you’ve done your job. But perhaps the most important thing to remember is that you’re being laid off because your employer is having trouble in a tough economy—which doesn’t mean that you can’t still be a valuable employee to someone else.

Seventy-eight percent of the unemployed people who belong to The Five O’Clock Club get a job whose salary is equal to or more than their previous pay. And while it’s not always possible to achieve that in our current tight economy, there are still plenty of companies that are in desperate need of quality employees. We stress this fact at The Five O’Clock Club. Remember that there is something else out there for you, and chances are, it’s a great opportunity that will improve your future.

Live as though finding a new job is your job. If you are used to showing up at the office from nine to five every day, it can be daunting to suddenly have hours of unscheduled time on your hands. You need to find a way to maintain the structure in your life and to keep some sort of day-to-day routine. A great way to do this is by using your old work hours to focus on your job search. Use that time to join trade organizations, schedule interviews, and network as much as possible.

At The Five O’Clock Club, we recommend that an unemployed person spend at least 40 hours a week on his or her search. If you do this, you’ll find that you have less time to lament your recent lay off and less time to sink into the negative thought patterns that are associated with it. Once your search pays off, you’ll be glad you quickly hunkered down and devoted so much time to finding a new job that’s right for you.

Manage your money responsibly. Whether you receive severance pay or not, the way you manage your money immediately after being laid off will determine your worry level during the foreseeable future. If a cash settlement is part of your severance package, you might be tempted to maintain your current living status while you search for a new job. However, that money can disappear quickly, especially if you are left to pay for your own benefits. Most people assume that they will find a new job within 30 days of their job loss and are surprised that it can actually take much longer. Create a budget so that you can see how long you can live off of your severance pay. To make your severance money last as long as possible, cut back on any unnecessary living expenses for the time being and get started on your search sooner rather than later.

If you didn’t receive any severance money, you’ll also want to create a post-job budget as soon as possible. Take a look at how much money you have, which bills are coming due, and what expenses you won’t be able to cut. Make sure you can pay your critical bills—mortgage, car payment, insurance—and don’t spend money on anything extra. You may have to cancel an upcoming vacation or get rid of your cable TV, but you will be glad in six month’s time that you didn’t rack up credit card debt and that your savings is still intact.

Expand your search. Just because you worked for a large corporation in a large city doesn’t mean that’s the only type of job you are qualified to do. If you are searching only in Los Angeles, for example, think of looking outside the city or even in a different state. Or if you are looking only at large public corporations, consider small or private companies.

Your personal talents can lend themselves to a variety of different job titles. You just have to be open to them. Searching for a job outside your comfort zone can sometimes open you up to some great unexpected opportunities.

Be picky. If the bills keep rolling in and your paychecks have long since stopped, it can be easy to panic and take the first job that’s offered. Don’t leap into the wrong job. It’s important that you take your time, keep your cool, and ultimately make the right decision for you.

If money is low, get an interim job. It may not be something you would want to do in the long term, but it will provide you with a steady paycheck during your job search. That way you’ll have money coming in and you will be free to keep searching until you’ve found the right job for you. Taking the wrong job and ending up being miserable could cause a string of job hops that will cost you valuable time and effort.

Start your own business. While it may not be feasible for you to start your own small business from the ground up—complete with angel investors and expensive staff members—it may be just the time for you to put your talents to work as a freelancer. Are you a prolific writer or a graphics guru? Use your business savvy to start freelancing while you’re searching for a new job. It can provide a cushion of income in between jobs and maybe even continue to supplement you once you’ve landed a new gig.

Even better, the business in the meantime will keep your skills sharp and provide great references for your résumé. And doing work in between jobs can show a potential employer that you are motivated and that your skills are desirable.

Now, more than ever, is when being proactive counts the most. We live in an economy where there are fewer jobs and more people looking for them, and the competition is tough. This is just the reality. And as hard as it may seem at the time, the more objective that you can be about your job loss, the better the end result you will create for yourself. Don’t let losing your job define who you are; let the way you handle it define who you will be.

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About the Book:

The Good Person Guidebook: Transforming Your Personal Life (Five O’Clock Books, 2008, ISBN: 978-0-944054-16-1, $14.95) is available at www.amazon.com.

For more information, please visit www.fiveoclockclub.com.



First Practical, Step-by-Step Blueprint for Talking and Flirting with Women No Matter If You?re Short, Old, Ugly, Flat-Broke, or Get Less Action Than a 40-Year Old Virgin!

Michael Lee asked:


You can either bump your head against the wall trying to think of the best ways to captivate a man, or you could simply apply any of the top 10 ways to attract a guy in this article.

These methods are not necessarily breakthrough information, but they have been proven to work with any type of men.

Tip # 1

There is probably nothing that attracts a guy towards a girl more than her genuine self. Therefore, girls need to learn how to be confident of their looks and overall self-image.

Most importantly, girls must never try to pretend to be someone else just to try and impress a guy. After all, most guys can see through a girl if she’s being genuine or not. And guys dislike their girls who try to wear another image since it reflects low self-esteem and insecurity.

Tip # 2

Appreciate a guy. As much as women spend time fixing herself or getting dressed, men also dedicate a substantial amount of time getting fixed.

Therefore, girls must try to be vocal about giving guys a compliment. You can either do it in a straightforward or playful manner. But still, knowing how to appreciate a man is one of the top 10 ways to attract a guy.

Tip # 3

In connection to the tip above, women must not try to overdo themselves when dressing up.

It is okay to take good care of your looks, but guys are turned off when women pay more attention to their looks than on their guy companion. As long as you’re presentable and clean, guys are fine with that.

Tip # 4

Produce a positive vibe. When you are a happy person, it is easy to spread that happiness onto the people around you. And if you can do that to a guy, then he’d love to be around you more often.

Tip # 5

Laugh at his jokes. This might seem trivial, but having a sense of humor and learning how to laugh together is one of the foundations to building a relationship; hence, this is one of the top 10 ways to attract a guy.

It ensures that you both are able to appreciate the brighter side of life and take things lightly from time to time.

Tip # 6

Use flirting body language. Sometimes, your gestures tell more about your feelings and intentions than words. Therefore, learn how to effectively send signals to a guy that you find him attractive and want to get to know better.

Tip # 7

Make eye contact. Your eyes can say a lot. And exchanging meaningful glances are one of the most effective ways to lure a guy towards you.

Tip # 8

When you spot a guy you like at a party, try to get close to him. Aside from sending out the message that you are attracted, it also shows how comfortable you are about yourself.

Tip # 9

Develop a fun and vibrant personality. With a personality such as this, it is easy for you to stand out in a crowd and enable guys to notice you.

Tip # 10

Be interested in the guy. Despite all the physical attraction, you should show interest in getting to know more about him.

Follow the top 10 ways to attract a guy in this article, and you’ll be captivating the man of your dreams in no time.



3 Secrets That Women Will Never Reveal To You

Adam Khoo asked:


There are four main classes of people in NLP and we normally refer to them as the “Visuals”, the “Auditories”, the “Kinesthetics” and the “Digitals”.

Each of these groups of people has certain general observable patterns of behaviors. Of course, these models are not meant to be cast into stone and followed like a set of rules. There are some exceptions and combination patterns.

However, we can say that at the point of interaction with the person, you can get clues as to what the other person’s representational type is. Finding out this representational type can help you establish rapport with them.

Here’s the first category, the “Visual”. You will tend to notice that a visual person is someone who tends to sit upright, is well organized and well grouped.

They have a tendency to speak rapidly in quick bursts, have a higher pitch of voice and they tend to visualize images in their minds. They have an active mind that wonders unless you have a good visual presentation. They also tend to look upwards in order to access information.

These are people whom I classify as high frequency people. If you take a look at their breathing patterns, they tend to be breathing high up in their chest. Neurologically, these people operate based on the neuro firing that takes place in their brain. When electrical impulses go off in their head, they generate images more rapidly than any chemical changes released.

To the other extreme, there are people who are much slower in their speech and tend to have deeper, resonant sounding voices. You will also notice that their breathing is much lower and takes place in the stomach area.

These people have difficulty sitting down for long periods of time, and are accustomed to moving around, touching and doing things. There is also a tendency for them to look down to get a feel for the environment around them.

Next are “Kinesthetic” people.

There are two kinds of “Kinesthetic” people.

The first kind tends to be more active. They are usually sports people, who enjoy the outdoors very much. The other kind of kinesthetics person tends to be more of a couch potato, who does not like outdoor activities and prefers to laze around and allow his mind to wonder.

The “Auditory” person is the type of person similar to the DJ we hear on the radio.

They usually have impactful and attractive voices that characteristically have wider variations and articulations. These people love discussions and are able to repeat things to you easily. There is also a tendency for them to lean forward and tilt their ear towards you or their hands might be on their cheek or close to their lips and ears. Their eyes tend to move to the left and right. Most auditory people also tend to be musically inclined.

They also have the ability to tell the difference between sounds, tunes, and melodies. These people tend to breathe in the diaphragm and I would classify them as mid frequency people.

The “Digital” personality is what you might consider a procedure and sequence person. He tends to do things step by step and is a person who loves abstract concepts.

There is plenty of internal dialogue and this person tends to process information logically. The digital personality tends to look downwards and to the left in order to access information. A person from this category exhibits characteristics of the other representational systems as well.

Knowledge of these four representational types will allow you to recognize differences in body language and gestures in order for you to be able to establish rapport with others more effectively.



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ok so its kinda long…
me and my bestfriend meet these two really hot boys at the park..
but ones 3 years older than me and the other is 1 year older than me.
so it started raining so we got invited into the older boys house.
but then he wanted us to go up into his room with us..
so my friend decided it was time to go.
but now im going crazy because i really like both of them!
i want one to be my boy friend
so i need loads of flirting tips!!
help me plz i really need it
any tips would be great
or websites that have flirting tips too.

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