sulamita berrezi asked:


s a relation marked by harmony, affection and mutual

respect. When you’re in rapport with a woman, she’ll treat you the way

she treats a close friend whom she’s ready to confide in. With an

overwhelming urge to understand as well as to be understood, she’ll

find everything between you and her agreeable.

Potentially, you can make her do anything if there’s a strong rapport
between you and her. She’ll look at you as though she’s looking at

herself. In some instances, she’ll think she’s found her “soul mate”.

Moreover, when two people come into rapport naturally, their body

language tends to coincide. They begin to “speak the same language”.

And they seem to go through the same kind of emotion and exhibit

similar reaction to environment and any other external event.

In order to effectively build rapport with a woman, you should start to

pace her, or mirror her actions. Simply perform similar or even

identical actions as she does. For example, if she frequently gestures

with her left hand while speaking, do the same. Believe me, 99% of

the time she won’t notice it. If she does notice, you’ve probably

overdone it. Just tell her something like, “Oh I’m sorry I didn’t realize

that”… with an innocent look.

It’ll be as if you are holding a mirror up to her so what she sees,

hears, or feels matches her reality and she sees another self in you.

It’s a good idea to practice

pacing one thing at a time: posture, facial expression, mood,

gestures, speech rate, and so on. After you become adept at

pacing, you will be able do it without thinking about it.

Building rapport in real life

whenever you can. For example, you can practice sitting in the

same position as a woman you’re watching. Modify accordingly of

course—you don’t want to sit with legs crossed all the time.

When you practice rapport

building and pace other people’s body language, tonality… pay

attention to how the other party reacts and how your own feelings

change as you adopt different or even conflicting body languages.

This will sharpen your sensory acuity in identifying how women

are feeling during contacts.

building rapport

Ian Stephens asked:




 

Sales Tip No. 1: Speak their learning and languaging preference

We use all 5 senses in learning and speaking, ie sight, sound, touch, smell and taste. And yet, we are genetically hard-coded with one which is our dominant languaging preference. You can tell by listening to the words or phases people use.

 

For example:

Visual: see, looks like, picture this, view, show me

Auditory: hear, tell me, music to my ears, rings bells

Kinesthetic: feel, sense, in touch, feels solid, grasp.

 

Effective salespeople are able to  track for the persons dominant languaging preference and then match it by talking the same way. This builds incredible rapport at a sub-conscious level.

 

If a person has a visual preference, (s)he will tell you in the conversation with the words that are used… example, “I see what you mean, but I don’t have a clear picture of how it applies to me!”

BUT if you are an auditory person, you might reply “ok, well let me tell you about it again in respect to your needs, and let you hear how it applies”. You have sub-consciously snapped rapport!
 

Talk their language (visual preference), not yours (auditory preference). A better response would have been ‘Ok, well let me show you the big picture, and you will see where you fit in the overall picture”.

 

My overall advice: Track for the languaging preference and match it!

 

 

Sales Tip No. 2: Match their speed of voice!

Particularly over the phone, this is one way to create strong rapport and sameness. If you are a slow and deliberate talker, and are speaking to a fast-talker, you will snap rapport at a sub-conscious level. Speed up a touch to increase the LIKENESS. Conversely, slow down if they are a slow thinker and talker. Nothing snaps rapport faster than someone finishing your sentences for you does.

 

Sales Tip No. 3: Master the art of subtle body language – matching and mirroring

This one needs to be subtle, or it can come across as mimicking. And yet, if done well, builds very strong rapport.

Ever notice yourself adopting the same tilt of the head, or stance, or seated position as the person you are talking to? It is very nature process that occurs over time when parties are comfortable with one another.

We can fast-track rapport through the use of body language. I prefer to avoid direct copying, and apply what’s called cross-matching or mirroring. In other words, if they cross their arms, I cross my legs. If they lean on one elbow with hand in face, I just put my hand near my face. Subtle, and yet there is a LIKENESS. Again. People like people who are like them!

 

A final word… Something I pre-suppose to be true is this… There is no such thing as resistance, just insufficient rapport building! What if it is true? If a potential client is resisting, stop selling, and go back to rapport building. You have more work to do yet!

 

 

Yours in sales success

Ian Stephens - 

Australia’s No. 1 peak performance coach

 

For more sales tips & resources go the official Ian Stephens page

 

 



How To Be The Ultimate Bad Boy Women Jealously Compete And Fight For

Mark Taylor asked:


Detecting and identifying flirting signals of attraction are among the clear precise ways to know whether to make the next move to your girl or to just keep on dating or, if things don’t work right away, remain friends with her for a while. If used healthily, flirting signals of attraction could be an ember of a very satisfying and worthwhile relationship. While very true, flirting signals could actually just be body language that may indicate ways to let the other person know that you are attracted and engrossed, at the very least, or even that you are open to pursuing a relationship, at best. Relax. Be yourself. Nothing beats showing your real colors during a date. Don’t pretend to be someone that your not. Being confident with who are is in itself a signal of attraction.

Flirting signals of attraction could be anything from a simple grin to an increased or bigger attention in the other person — may involve touching or leaning over, whispering and other not-too intimate (but seems like it) gestures. Women tend to illustrate and exemplify this attraction by making themselves more striking and pleasant to look at (yes, that’s make-up). They may show it either through smiling, playing of the hair, and through other body language signals that make a man to take notice.

Also longer eye contact is a great way to flirt and show attraction. Stare longer in her eyes and don’t be the first one to break eye contact. It is very common when a man stares at a woman, then she catches him staring at him he immediately looks away. That is a sign of weakness. Keep the eye contact with her and let her break it. It shows confidence. It is not an easy habit to get into, because we are not used to it, but if you start practicing it, it will get easier and make you much more confident and a much better flirt. This will attract girls to you.

On the other hand, men’s flirting signals of attraction include doing things to impress. Some who take delight showing off, or take pride in their bodies. They would talk about their possessions, their careers and other things that’ll elevate them and make a valuable catch to the opposite sex. Flirting signals of attraction take more than the body to communicate. If the person uses physical attraction to communicate the interest, it only means they’re having fun and may not look into a more serious relationship.

If you would like to discover AMAZING strategies on flirting signals of attraction, then visit my website to get your hands on my FREE report which has helped thousands of men get women they thought they never had a chance with!



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